These last five months have been full with the work of keeping up and catching up on long-idled chores and projects around Blue Moon Stead, and with the love of friends and family who have been so good to be in touch with me, to be here with me, to cheer me and help me adjust to this new life. There has been both a sense of emptiness and fullness, with waves of grief and gratitude for Gary.

Turning compost is time-consuming, unless you can get someone else to do it! In my best Tom Sawyer fashion, I convinced my brother, Richard, that it was fun!
Gary and I always knew the key to me managing my deep sense of loss would be healthy busy-ness, and we were certain that Blue Moon Stead would provide. It has. Gary left me with a list of projects and priorities and, of course, others have come on their own.

Richard cleaned all manner of debris from home improvement projects off the deck, making room for pond-side dinners on the warm September evenings during his visit.
I’ve had work done on the cabin to make it more comfortable, especially in winter. I’ve had parts of my forest cleaned up for fire safety and forest health. My brother, Richard, after spending quite a bit of time here in the month or so after Gary died, came back for ten days in September to help with everything from shoveling manure and turning compost to assembling carts, taking nails out of boards, putting up horse fences, and moving all manner of things from the deck and porch into storage.

Meanwhile, I needed a crop that will be harvestable next year (most of the Chinese herbs require 3 or more years before harvest), so am planting a whole lot of garlic this fall. Our friend Steve, who visited us last year, offered to help. Steve farmed in Alaska, so knows the meaning of Extreme Gardening!



It makes me happy to hear from you. Especially as you’ve been on my mind as of late during random unexpected moments!
Thanks, Alida! So good to hear from you, too.
Nothing like a puppy to brighten up everyone’s day. Even Ella will have to admit that! Congratulations on your little Sundog. Love the name and the connotation, “rainbow of the darkest days”. Truly Sunny is yours to bring you hope.
Thank you, Linda! She is too adorable. It is amazing to see new life like that — already so much personality and intelligence, the little ankle-biting buster!
Barbara, Never a dull moment for you. Best of luck to you and the Spots and best of luck in rivaling Gilroy!
Barbara, I’m sorry to hear about your loss but I’m happy Gary is still with you spiritually. I send my well wishes to you all the way from NYC.
Thank you, Jane. I’m so glad to hear from you! I hope you are enjoying life in the big city!
I think Sunny needs LOTS and LOTS of SQUEEKY TOYS!!!!!
I should have marked that comment as SPAM!
Hi Barb, Thinking of you over the holidays. Want to send you a Christmas card. Is there a mailing address you can e-mail me? Hope you are doing well- and spending time with family and friends. Hugs, Denise Barton